I absolutely agree. Never be a man's after thought. When a man suggests he'd like to go out I tell him I need at least two days notice. That sets the bar from the beginning.
I've noticed that since I began doing that I've been meeting men who are on their game, top quality.
If they are late or reschedule more than once I don't respond to their advances. It's up to me to teach them how to treat me. If they treat me less than a lady should be treated that's my fault.
I have always stood by this. You must decline if it is impromptu and last minute. Even if it means you are at home with nothing to do. Give yourself a manicure and watch a great movie.
Really good advice here. Another sign of a lazy guy is one who wants a woman to initiate everything in the beginning. I met a guy (white)at a networking meetup. He approached me and we chatted for a while and when I was about to leave he gave me his business card and asked for mine. After exchanging cards, he said, "stay in touch", meaning he wanted me to call him. Like hell, I don't initiate first phone calls with men. Your the man in this scenario so you should call me first, I didn't approach you. It's been a month now and I haven't heard from him and will never hear from me.
I love a "hunter" and this guy was not. Once I know that a guy is not a "hunter" and lazy. I usually have no interest in him and it doesn't matter me how good-looking he is or how much money he has. I want a man's man, period.
It seems these days "real men" are in very short supply.
Great article, love all your dating tips. About last minute call or invite....it always amazes me when women accept it. A friend of mine was the same way until I kept reminding her the value of love and respect go hand in hand.
This is sosososososo true, but I have to admit I have been guilty of being an obvious "plan b" for a guy (dumb college days), because I thought that if I looked good enough, was "fly" enough, charming, etc., he would eventually like me more and pursue me more readily. THE OPPOSITE ALWAYS HAPPENS. Even if you really, really, really, really like the guy, stand firm. In the end, at least you'll have his respect and keep yours too.
This is great advice! For those of us who are seeking quality partners, want this type of straight forward advice.Maybe,a bi-weekly dating tips for readers? Thanks
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I absolutely agree. Never be a man's after thought. When a man suggests he'd like to go out I tell him I need at least two days notice. That sets the bar from the beginning.
I've noticed that since I began doing that I've been meeting men who are on their game, top quality.
If they are late or reschedule more than once I don't respond to their advances. It's up to me to teach them how to treat me. If they treat me less than a lady should be treated that's my fault.
Don't settle for less...EVER!
Totally agree with you. Even if you are watching tv with your cat, you tell him that you have other plans.
I have always stood by this. You must decline if it is impromptu and last minute. Even if it means you are at home with nothing to do. Give yourself a manicure and watch a great movie.
Thank you! I hate that ish! A guy will not be able to find me again, whether by phone, text, or whatever, once he tries that mess.
It's as sloppy as a big wet nasty kiss. :)
Really good advice here. Another sign of a lazy guy is one who wants a woman to initiate everything in the beginning. I met a guy (white)at a networking meetup. He approached me and we chatted for a while and when I was about to leave he gave me his business card and asked for mine. After exchanging cards, he said, "stay in touch", meaning he wanted me to call him. Like hell, I don't initiate first phone calls with men. Your the man in this scenario so you should call me first, I didn't approach you. It's been a month now and I haven't heard from him and will never hear from me.
I love a "hunter" and this guy was not. Once I know that a guy is not a "hunter" and lazy. I usually have no interest in him and it doesn't matter me how good-looking he is or how much money he has. I want a man's man, period.
It seems these days "real men" are in very short supply.
Great article, love all your dating tips. About last minute call or invite....it always amazes me when women accept it. A friend of mine was the same way until I kept reminding her the value of love and respect go hand in hand.
This is sosososososo true, but I have to admit I have been guilty of being an obvious "plan b" for a guy (dumb college days), because I thought that if I looked good enough, was "fly" enough, charming, etc., he would eventually like me more and pursue me more readily. THE OPPOSITE ALWAYS HAPPENS. Even if you really, really, really, really like the guy, stand firm. In the end, at least you'll have his respect and keep yours too.
I think we've all been there and had those moments. But what you decide to accept, you ultimately get more of.
This is great advice! For those of us who are seeking quality partners, want this type of straight forward advice.Maybe,a bi-weekly dating tips for readers? Thanks
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