- Be honest and upfront but, don’t reveal everything or your ruin the mystery.
- Be honest but, don’t reveal all your “issues” on the ready.
- Be elusive but, not an ice queen.
- Be available but, not too available.
- Protect yourself but, be willing to get hurt.
To be vulnerable you have to be willing to be hurt, embarrassed, or wrong. You learn nothing from being sheltered in relationships. Being vulnerable sometimes means having to wear your heart on your sleeve. What?!?
What I'm learning is that in order to establish emotional intimacy in a relationship you have to sometimes be vulnerable. In order to feel comfortable with your vulnerability you have to know yourself- know yourself in order to share yourself with someone else. I've had many female friends try to tell me that but it didn't quite click until now. This has left me asking: do I know myself as well as I think I do?
It's not always about the other person. When you hear yourself complain that men are flaky, inconsiderate, aloof, emotionally unavailable, etc, just know that like attracts like and, if you are attracting flakiness or emotional unavailability - guess what. Sometimes working on or in a relationship means working on you as a person.