Here's the deal. It's not that modern women don't need men; it's that we don't need them in the same way that our grandmother's did. People, men and women alike, really don't seem to understand that; so, I'll repeat it:
It's not that modern women don't need men, it's that we don't need them in the same way our grandmothers needed their men.
They say three's the charm, so let it sink in one more time: It's not that modern women don't need men, it's that we don't need them in the same way our grandmothers needed men. I also said it three different ways, did you catch that?
So, can we please stop looking into the same box for a one size fits all solution?
- Some women like and NEED their independence and NEED a man who can embrace that and work together in their relationship. Others are happier with and NEED a good provider.
- Some women want to have a family and NEED a man in order to create one.
- Some women will NEED a man to have regular, (hopefully) STD free sex.
- Some women NEED a man who will be an equal partner to them. Others may NEED one who can be emotionally supportive and cheer them on in their endeavors.
I could go on forever, literally, as there are many different combinations and possibilities. Each woman has her own set of needs specific to her (perhaps that's part of the problem); it is up to us as individuals to determine what it is that we can and cannot live with. Dr. John Gray does a great job discussing how women can best articulate and put their particular needs on display when dealing with men in his book Mars and Venus On A Date- I highly recommend Dr. Gray's books. Each couple will have to determine what type of relationship works best for them and, I think that's a great thing.
To the men, dare I say it, some will consider this man bashing heresy, but some men will need to learn to adapt and evolve a bit more. I know women have changed drastically over the past 60 years. I wholeheartedly concede that. But ask yourself have you really adapted to your current environment and social changes as much as you possibly can? Are you rolling with the punches or are you still trying to live like its 1970? This isn't only evident in relationships but in educational attainment and economic participation as well.
You can stay rigid or you can bend, it's your choice. Things aren't going to go back to the way they were and I'm really tired of the animosity and negativity between men and women. I think for the most part we're good people who are just talking past each other. Men and women are going to have to learn new ways of relating to each other and I'm confident that we can.