I have now made 3 attempts at reading the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. I keep getting distracted by other books! Its pathetic. I will finish it though!
Over the Christmas holiday I was approached by Lisa Marble, the author of How To Be Irresistible to White Men: Interracial Dating Secrets of Asian Women Black Women Who Swirl Should Know . She asked me to read and review her book.
I originally had no intention of reading this book. I loathe the idea that BW have to be something other than who they are in order to achieve their romantic goals. However, since Lisa approached, I figured why not- its no real sweat off my back. I also made it clear to her that I would operate under full disclosure with my readers and be 100% honest with my thoughts on the book.
As I previously stated I do not like the idea of telling BW that they need to be someone else or imitate other women in order to win. I feel that we just have not learned how to effectively leverage what we already have in order to get what we want- and that’s precisely what this book does, encourages BW to use what they already have strategically. Marble isn’t telling BW to be more like AW, instead she’s suggesting incorporating strategies AW have used successfully to their benefit. Her advice really isn’t that much different from what Evia Moore, Faith Dow, and Eugenia Berg have offered on their respective blogs. I learned some new tricks too. Some of Marble’s strategies include:
- Moving to a better, target rich, neighborhood and how to afford it
- How to enhance your online dating profiles so that you make it loud and clear- without explicitly stating- that you are interested in white men
- How to be intentional in your dating and socializing
I felt that Marble relied too much on stereotypes and generalities (granted its a short book) about BW and Feminists in particular. Most BW do not loudly proclaim Feminism they shun it. Also, there are many feminine feminists. Feminists also able find husbands left and right- despite the men who complain about them. I am also somewhat uncomfortable with making WM “the prize”; however, society has thus conditioned women to believe that men and the title of wife are the ultimate prize so I can’t fault Lisa for capitalizing on that.
This book reads very quickly- I finished it in about 2 hours with some distractions. So I can get back to my original schedule! It is a short and effective read ideal for young and/or college age women; however, I think all BW could learn something from this book.